Feminine Genius

jessica-3jessica-2jessica-1JESSICA HAZBOUN: WIFE & MOTHER

So, obviously, I am not a mom… and most of you reading this aren’t either, but this woman has been such an inspiration for me as a daughter of Christ, a wife, and a mom that I couldn’t help but share the love and beauty she brings to the world just by being in it. I have known Jessica Hazboun for as long as I can remember and throughout that whole time I have seen her grow as a woman and more importantly in her faith.

Starting off as a labor and delivery nurse Jessica always thought that was her yes to God until she became a wife and a mom, “My vocation has changed so much. I was delivering babies and now I’m a full-time mom, a full-time wife, and raising my own little church. That has become my yes and while some people ask, “Do you miss work or the adult interaction,” and I do, but raising good catholic men and women with a foundation of faith that I know to be true is so much bigger than me.” As she said this Jessica was holding Luna (10 months), constantly moving things out of Tommy’s (3 years) reach, and yet still totally present with me. It all just seemed so natural to her and I was totally in awe of how amazing she was. She was embracing this side of her feminine nature that I feel has been so belittled in our modern age, being a mom. “I feel like being a mom and a wife has totally groomed my femininity. In Pope Saint John Paul II’s, Letter to Women, he says that we find true fulfilment in this complete gift of self and I’ve found that when you marry someone you get a glimpse of that. You completely give yourself to someone else and through that communion you bear this fruit of life.”

“You completely give yourself to someone else and through that communion you bear this fruit of life.”

I really started looking up to Jessica about a year ago when I started following her on Instagram. She had these authentic posts about her how hard her day had been or something silly that her kids had done or just a short reflective prayer about her day. And to top it all off, as a stay at home mom she still is a strong, true, feminist which is flued throughout her posts. “To me feminism is a little bit more than standing up and speaking out for what we want. It’s living it, it’s being an example and if I can be that example to my daughter Luna and the people who follow me then that’s how I can reach out and change the world in my little way. I can’t really leave my kids to go to the march or go speak in front of people right now but if I can inspire women through my posts and the little messages that come to my heart through prayer, during the rosary, or in meditation then I feel like that’s what I’m called to do.” And her posts do just that. She has shown me what it means to be a woman in a culture that is throwing a million different lies at us and she does it with God.

I know sometimes we get this false idea that being a mom is easy but just in the three hours I spent with Jessica I know that it is not. It’s just as hard, if not harder, than anything we do in our lives. “There are times when I’m at the depths of despair and my kids have run me ragged and I have to stop and look at my statue of Mary and be like, ‘Mary I’m sure Jesus was a handful at one point, help me through this.’ As a mom and as a woman when you feel like you’re failing it’s emotional and physical and everything on top of you and sometimes all you can do is cry and pray to gather yourself back up and keep going. In any situation whether you’re a mother or a student or a fulltime worker in any situation it’s good to be able to fall back on Him and I think that’s my strength, honesty He’s my strength.”

“In any situation whether you’re a mother or a student or a fulltime worker in any situation it’s good to be able to fall back on Him and I think that’s my strength, honesty He’s my strength.”

What shocks me the most is, even as a mom of two, this woman is ten times more fashionable and put together than me. She is so intentional about the way she dresses and while she is always with the trends and always looks fantastic, she looks so honorable and dignified while doing it. She commands respect when she walks in the room and her feminine genius is on full display. “Modesty is such a beautiful thing. I’m not just talking about clothing either. Modesty is a way of living, behaving, dressing, talking, and thinking. My husband said it beautifully to me, “modesty is about self-worth.” It’s knowing that you are worth so much, deserving of so much, and loved so much and choosing to portray that in your dress, actions, and conversations in your everyday life. Pop culture and fashion has become such a big part of our lives. It’s in our music, televisions, books, magazines, everywhere! While it’s funny and entertaining, it can be addictive. Like all things addictive, it can lead to negative things. It can lead to negative thoughts and feelings about yourself. I appreciate fashion and trends but try to focus on the message I am sending with my clothing. I want to always exude confidence and joy while feeling comfortable, fashionable, honorable. I want to always speak in words that are of love, sympathy, and understanding. I watch movies and television shows that are only uplifting and empowering versus raunchy. I truly believe it’s so important and so overlooked in our society and I am working on, with every ounce of energy left in this tired momma’s body, sharing the beauty of modesty with my children, my family, my friends, and whoever I encounter.”

“Modesty is knowing that you are worth so much, deserving of so much, and loved so much and choosing to portray that in your dress, actions, and conversations in your everyday life.”

I love the way Jessica loves. She radiates feminine genius by embracing her vocation as a wife, a sister, and a mother. She is working to change the feminist narrative and she is started with her son and daughter, she is starting in the home, and her children are a living proof of the grace that stems from it.

Here are a couple of Jessica’s favorite places to shop:
ASOS
Clad and Cloth
Marchalls

If you have any prayer requests or questions please feel free to send me a message!