So, I was out for dinner a couple nights ago and this naturally gorgeous girl passed my table in a very cute, but very short and low cut, romper. I didn’t think much of it being in Southern California until I heard a conversation between two guys talking about her saying, “I mean I’d never want to be with her but she’s nice to look at…” That broke my heart. Right before my eyes I witnessed the lie that society has lead her to believe and it reaffirmed a belief I’ve recently come to accept; unlike what society says, skin does not equal power. That girl may have worn the romper because it is what’s in style, yet by doing so her body became an object for men to look at instead of a person to be loved. She is so much more than her body and it made me so angry that society has let her believe that this is the way to “fight” for women’s rights.
Right before my eyes I witnessed the lie that society has taught women and it reaffirmed a belief I’ve recently come to accept; unlike what society says, skin does not equal power.
I know I promised not to preach the, ‘dress modestly to protect men’ idea, and I need you to know that’s not what I’m saying here. I’m not saying that she should have chosen a different outfit to protect the eyes of those boys, but to protect the sacredness of her beautifully made body. She didn’t gain power or equality for women by dressing that way, she lost it, and we as women deserve to know that truth. It’s your body! Take ownership of it. You deserve to be adored in the purest of ways. You deserve to have your personality and story stand out as who you are apart from your body. And you deserve to be empowered by the clothing you wear. My sister and I started talking about Proverbs 31 where it speaks of the perfect women who’s “strength and dignity are her clothing and she laughs at the time to come,” and that’s how I want women to see themselves. A woman needs to know that her beauty isn’t in her body but her identity as a daughter of Christ, and I’m not just saying that to make you feel good about yourself. It is the truth. A woman who knows this can ‘laugh at the time to come’ because she isn’t held down by the anxieties that come with worrying if you will be accepted or loved because she already knows that the God of the Universe has accepted and loved her through the cross and He has got everything figured out you. Just trust in Him.
You deserve to be adored in the purest of ways. You deserve to have your personality and story stand out as who you are apart from your body. And you deserve to be empowered by the clothing you wear.
There is so much freedom in dressing for yourself, in living in accordance with the creator of humanity. Trust me, I know it’s scary as heck the first time you wear those longer shorts or dresses. When I got my first pair of longer shorts from Old Navy (the best place ever for shorts) I was freaking out. I thought everyone was staring at me and I felt ridiculous, that is, until I had multiple women coming up to me to tell me how much they loved my outfit. I was blown away by how women reacted to my outfit and I realized that one brave act of wearing longer shorts not only dignified myself, but also, just maybe encouraged the women who saw me wearing them to try it themselves. Ladies, let’s normalize dignity. We already have the ‘vintage’ trend on our side let’s use it to our advantage. Be brave for the girls who don’t know any better and demand the respect you deserve from this world. Hold people to higher standards with love and see how much you as one person can impact a community.
Be brave for the girls who don’t know any better and demand the respect you deserve from this world.
A woman’s body is not meant to be ogled at, and the more we dress in a way that commandeers respect rather than objectification, the faster we will change the current culture. What kind of narrative about feminine beauty do you want to share with the way you dress? How do you want society to treat women?