Accountability Through Love

amanda-1About 3 years ago I was at this thing called an Instameet (a bunch of photographers meet up in one place and really get to know each other as human beings instead of just faces on Instagram. It really is an amazing idea) Anyway… I was the youngest person there and I didn’t know anyone and I wore this one shirt that I absolutely loved but to be honest it was wayyy too low cut. I was at a point in my life where I didn’t think anything of it. It was a fashionable shirt and I knew the more fashionable I was the more likely people would take photos of me and I could make more friends. I wasn’t thinking about modesty or disrespecting myself… I just wanted to look cute, which is how most people are.

She didn’t make me feel guilty about it or call me out in front of a lot of people.

Then, a woman who I have looked up to so much as a woman, photographer, and Christian pulled me aside while we were at dinner. She very carefully made me aware of how low my shirt was and warned me just to be aware of it the rest of the night. She did it so sincerely and phrased it so beautifully in a way that I had never heard before and it really touched my heart. She didn’t make me feel guilty about it or call me out in front of a lot of people. She came from a point of love from one daughter of Christ to another and really wanted me to be aware of how much I was worth and it brought me to tears. It was such a simple act but to me it changed my life.


For the first time I was conscious of what I was wearing and how subconsciously I was aware of the decision to wear this shirt as a way to get attention. It wasn’t even a desire for sexual attention just this desire to be noticed and seen as beautiful, but I knew I was going about it in the wrong way. To me, Amanda’s small act of coming up to talk to me seemed like the biggest act of courage and even if she has no clue who I am now I will always remember her and the way she changed my perception of myself.

Love them enough to hold them accountable.

Honestly, talking to our sisters about their outfit choices is one of the scariest things in the whole world. You don’t want to be seen as the lame one or the prude… but I know I would not be where I am today if it weren’t for the 5 minutes she took out of her day to talk to me. We are called to love one another. To love people where they are at no matter what they do, and a part of loving someone is calling them to a higher level of holiness. Love them enough to hold them accountable. Pull them off to the side and really talk to them because it could change their life. I know it changed mine.


Outfit of the Week:
To be honest… my friend gave me this dress for free and I couldn’t even find something similar to it so I apologize
Faux Fur Cream Vest – Poshmark
Eve Footbed Wedge Sandals – Target
Blessing Bracelets – My Saint My Hero
Watch – Daniel Wellington

Song Recommendations of the Week:
Won’t Stop Running – A Great Big World – You guys have to listen to this song it is absolutely beautiful
Howl – The Family Crest
Public Places – Nat and Alex Wolff (yes… the Naked Brothers Band)

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