For the last three and a half weeks I lived in a tiny chicken coop with 10 girls. Everyone’s first reaction to hearing that has been, “Oh my goodness, how bad was the drama in that room?” or “Did you really get along with all of them?” and that upsets me. Why do we naturally assume that a group of women have to have problems? Why do people get excited to hear stories of women against other women? Living with those ten women was one of the best things that could have ever happened to me. I learned so much from the way they loved, I was inspired by their faith, and I was called to greatness through their friendship.
“From the first day there I felt like I could share anything with them and this vulnerability changed our whole group dynamic.”
Starting from the first day we got to camp I felt God calling me to be vulnerable with these girls like I never have before and it was so freeing. From the first day there I felt like I could share anything with them and this vulnerability changed our whole group dynamic. When I felt myself comparing my prayer or experiences with one of the other female missionaries instead of letting it fester inside I was able to bring it into the light and stop the lie before I let it eat me up inside. And, when I was struggling to get along with someone or I just felt like the devil was attacking our relationship I felt comfortable bringing it up with them and suddenly the devil didn’t have any power over our friendship. There was an intentionality behind every conversation and I felt so loved in the most pure and sincere way.
It was because of this sisterhood that I was comfortable embracing my singleness for the first time and felt free pursuing being the Lord’s Beloved. I was so affirmed by these women who I looked up to and felt so close to God’s Heart that I didn’t feel the need to seek affirmation from the men around me and I was able to pursue holy and good friendships with them. I was free to be myself and to give and receive love in its fullness. And it was good.
“This competition between women is tearing apart the feminine genius, the very thing that holds society together. It’s through our sisters that we discover the truths about the feminine genius and its with them that we put those truths into action.”
Being vulnerable and opening up your heart to other people is really flippen hard and incredibly scary but so worth it. This competition between women is tearing apart the feminine genius, the very thing that holds society together. It’s through our sisters that we discover the truths about the feminine genius and its with them that we put those truths into action. I shouldn’t feel more inclined to tell a boy about my struggles and faith (unless he is close to being or is your husband) and yet I catch myself doing it all the time because I feel more “comfortable” with men when really I am just seeking their affirmation. Women were made to grow in faith in communion with one another. Creating a sisterhood requires vulnerability and courage and perseverance but if done right it will last you a lifetime.
At camp we were encouraged to put our sisterhood before our friendship with the men. We were told to fall on each other and seek each other out before turning to anyone else and because of that not only did the community flourish but so did my faith. We prayed, we spent many nights talking way past curfew, we laughed a lot, we cried a lot, and we were just there for each. Every woman deserves to have a community like this, one that encourages each other and never drags you down. I have never felt more affirmed and confident in who I am and who I will become than with this community of women and I will forever love them because of it.
“Take the risk that sisterhood requires because without it life, and faith, become a whole lot harder.”
Take the risk that sisterhood requires because without it life, and faith, become a whole lot harder. As for the 15 women I spent the last month of my life with… all I can say is thank you. You have all affected me in more ways than you could ever know and I am forever grateful for the way you all loved me. I miss you all a whole heck of a lot and I can’t wait until we are all together again.
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